I read a story this morning on this eve of Christmas. It was written by my cousin Bruce. Story
After reading this story, I thought about how I’d spent the early part of my morning, focusing on my dear friend, Cathy, who is no longer here and how much I missed her. That, of course, lead to missing my Mom & Dad (Harvey), who have passed. Thinking of those loved ones lost gave me this feeling of being alone. From there I thought about how I’d be alone on Christmas as my children would be with their father. Funny how one depressing thought leads to another. I spoke with my daughter, Erika, on the phone. I mentioned being alone on Christmas and how I might go and see a movie we had planned to see a few days later together when she came down to see me and how she really wanted to see it with me, both of us for the first time. I realized, then and there, that I was having my own little pity party, focusing on this whole “woe is me” thing.
Getting back to Bruce’s story and his message, which is what this whole holiday season is about; the value of those we love and spreading that love around and of course, gratitude for all we have. Crazy how one’s focus can change so quickly from thinking about what was missing to thinking about the great time I had yesterday, visiting my Dad (Chuck) and his wife, Pat, my brother, Bruce, his girlfriend, Joan and Pat’s kids, Laurie and Ted. I spent the day laughing and sharing stories and in the evening we all went to dinner, where we ate great food, laughed even more and just had a great time. That “alone” feeling just disappeared.
Why is is so easy to sometimes go to that dark place, see our glass as half empty instead of half full? I really love my “half full” feeling as opposed to the other. My body feels better, my mind feels better and stress goes away. It’s really a better place for me and I’m sure, for everyone.
Hopefully, all of you will take time to focus on what’s good in your life this season. Take time to say “I love you” to those special people and give big hugs and spread smiles. And if, by chance, that noise in your brain goes to the dark place, try not to give it power and for Pete’s sake, don’t stay there too long!
Love and Light!!
The optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose
– Kahlil Gibran